14 TOXIC WORDS YOU SHOULD DELETE FROM YOUR VOCABULARY
The tongue is powerful: a single word can raise empires or destroy them mercilessly.
There are words and expressions that bind your mind to limiting schemes and that you should eradicate if you want to detach. These words not only turn you off, but they also affect the self-esteem and perception of those around you.
"The way we use language affects others, because we can sink someone or cause a change in their attitudes according to what we tell them."
We are what we say
Words have a positive or negative effect on ourselves and others. Catherine Pratt, author of “How to Deal with Negative People,” claims that negative people can cause others to feel exhausted or even depressed.
Toxic words also have consequences on our own image and how others see us.
A list of toxic words4s
But what toxic words are there?
what are the negative words?
There are a number of terms we should not use as part of our language. They are as follows:
1. Incompetent
There are words that when someone receives them make them feel like a clumsy and incompetent. That's why you should avoid calling someone incompetent. Why? Because each person has a series of virtues and flaws, and can be good at doing some tasks but not others.
For example, an equal person is not good at working as a waiter, but can have a great mastery of new technologies and perform excellently as a web programmer. In order not to use the word incompetent in reference to work to studies, it is always advisable to encourage this individual to find his true passion. It may not work for that job, but there will be another one that fits perfectly and can exploit your skills.
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Individuals can have a lot of prejudices and get defensive with what does not fit within our mental schemes. There are many cultures with their ways of thinking and values and customs, and this is what makes our world so varied, rich and diverse. When we affirm that someone is weird, we're saying that we're normal, when, in reality, we're all different.
If you're one of those people who call someone weird and suffers from some kind of problem, you should be grateful for how lucky you were to be born into a good family and to enjoy good health. Life can be very unfair to some people.
3. I need you
This phrase, if employed in a relationship with a partner, refers to emotional dependence. It is used by people who have low self-esteem and who stick to a relationship despite being toxic. When someone enjoys high self-esteem he doesn't need anyone to be happy, because the partner is a complement and it's not everything to him or her.
4. I can not
“I can’t” is one of those limiting words that prevents you from taking action and is crippling. Except in extreme cases, effort and perseverance will allow you to achieve your goals. As long as these goals are realistic.
5. I should, I should not
"Should I or shouldn't I" has to do with a series of social beliefs or what others tell you to do. You are the only person who knows what motivates you and what will make you happy. So you can already delete from your personal dictionary this word or phrases like: I must get married, I must be a doctor, etc. Better to use this way: "I want to be a firefighter" or "I want to travel."
6. Impossible
This word is similar to “I can’t,” and as said before, except in some cases, realistic goals can be achieved. More than impossible, it would be better to say: "It's difficult but not impossible. ”
7. I hate
Hate is a negative emotion that encourages aggression and violence. According to psychologist Manuel Vitutia in the Huffington Post, "This emotion steals our peace and doesn't let us enjoy anything else." "Feeling hate is like suffering from an ulcer." We won't get anything by telling someone we hate them. It's always better to accept and move on without hard feelings.
8. Bored
There's always things to do, if you're bored it's because you have a poor life. Instead of staying on the couch watching TV, you better go for a walk, run or read an interesting psychology book like these: "The 30 best Psychology Books You Can't Miss".
9. Angry
Anger is often a reaction from which we regret. For example, when we're in a couple and we explode for something silly, then it's time to apologize for our reaction and admit that it wasn't for that much. Experts claim that anger is a secondary reaction that often conceals insecurity, fear or sadness. Therefore, if you're going to get angry, first analyze whether there is no other cause that is provoking your anger.
10. Guilty
Blaming others can also mask our own insecurities, and it can avoid acknowledging that we are also guilty. In fact, it is easier to blame the other than to think deeply about your part of fault.
11. Ugly
We live in a society that values people’s physical appearance a lot and dominates image culture. And not everyone has physical traits that they fall in love with.
D.G.Shastri