Never force a relationship.
Sometimes it's better to move on, than to hold on to a person who doesn't understand who you truly are. Unfortunately there will be times where your absence will teach you what your presence cannot.
You need to stop breaking your own heart in trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn't meant to work to begin with.
You can't force someone to genuinely care about you. Love does not fade away, lust does.
You can't force someone to be faithful and committed to you.
You can't force someone to be the person you need them to be. You can’t build a relationship with someone who expects you to do all of the work.
You can’t force someone to see the importance of communication and why they should pursue it and be consistent with you.
You can’t force someone to love and treat you right. Stop letting people stress you out. If they can’t create more harmony with you through proper treatment and healthy communication, then they need to go.
The truth is, sometimes the person you want the most is the person you would be best without. Don’t ever let someone make you feel like you’re crazy for wanting what you deserve.
You have got to understand some things are meant to come into your life, just not meant to stay. You deserve a relationship with someone who doesn’t make you compete for their affection, and never has you guessing where you stand with them.
Everything that you do to show love, you have to be careful, not to lose yourself by trying to fix what should never be there in the first place. You can't get the relationship you need from someone who's not ready to reciprocate the love you give to them. When God shows you their true colors, don’t try to paint a different picture.
I know it's hard when you meet someone and your heart feels that's the person you could spend an eternity with, and you start to accept that they are not that person you thought they needed to be.
And no matter how many times you cry yourself to sleep at night, you will eventually heal from your previous relationship and find the one you have always longed for. Your future will now bring an understanding of why things didn't work out in your previous relationships.
One thing I have learned throughout the years is, “It is better to be single than to be in a relationship settling for less.” They don’t deserve you, stay focused.
If they see you as an option, then they don't deserve to be a priority in your life. When they're serious about you, they'll give you consistency, not confusion. Breakups hurt, but losing someone who doesn’t respect and appreciate you is a gain, not a loss. You deserve someone who feels you're too important to lose. Too many people are not walking in their purpose because they are in a relationship with the wrong person. Be patient, and only enter into a relationship when it is truly best for you. There will be people who love the idea of you, but lack the maturity to handle the reality of you. You can miss someone, but still understand that you deserve better. When the love is real, it goes so much deeper than the physical. Love doesn’t hurt…trying to love the wrong person does. Know your worth, and then increase your value. A relationship needs two people putting in the work and pouring into each other. Stop giving do-overs to people who treat you like leftovers. Let them lose you, they had enough chances.
Take my advice and never chase someone who's not chasing you. Life is too short to be waiting for someone to act right. Single doesn’t always mean available. Those who leave everything in God’s hands, will eventually see God’s hand in everything. Waiting on God isn’t always easy, but it’s always worth it.
I pray that you find a love that you don’t have to question.
D.G.Shastri